When men can't show their emotions.

Men can not show their emotions!!!

It is only the human mind, conditioned and clouded by social, cultural and political influences that leads to such an understatement. Can the lion, as the ruler of the jungle, not roar than? Must he be a pussy-cat, obliterating to the rawest feeling that actually defines him?

That should make it already clear no!? And for those who find the comparison to the animal kingdom banal, I strongly invite you to spend some time with (preferably, non-domesticated) animals to get a grasp of their very natural and equal rigorous expression of what is living in them. The honesty of which they do might baffle you endlessly.  You may question this severely of course, like "animals live from instinct", and true it is,.....a compound largely suppressed or bygone in humans. We would have a considerable amount less (mental and physical) problems if we would still be in contact with that aspect of ourselves. Now most of the time we have a lot of philosophies about it and are screaming inside, afraid of what the world would think if we express them.

I don't know who or for which reason this claim, "men can't show their emotions" comes but it's lacking every inch of common sense as a human being. At least to the ones who keep on preaching it, copying it, teaching it, . . . . but have you ever stood still to this phrase that has been thrown at you, and you seem to have swallowed it like piece of bread thrown at a seagull in full flight without the slightest consideration. (Although when it comes to seagulls, I can tell you they damn well know what they are swallowing, and what not). It only means that what is living on the inside, in a man than, is not allowed to be exteriorized? With this writing I'll point out to several features of what is happening in men if they don't express their emotions, and when they do express them.

At first, when it's not expressed.

Everything in the life of a human being is characterized by the expression of energy. Whether it's on the physical level (activity), the psycho- emotional level (verbal and emotional expression of thoughts, idea's, feelings, emotions, etc.) or spiritual level (the expression of the ultimate contact with your soul), all is emotion, energy in motion.

Energy makes things happening. Energy flows through our being, makes us think, take decisions and act upon whatever is playing in our head, . . . or heart. No one has a problem when a man is bursting into laughter. Is laughter than not an emotion, an energetic response to an external happening? (internal is less likely as this depends on inner indulges and freedom of thoughts). With this, it becomes immediately clear that we seem to have a filter when it comes to what is an accepted or not accepted to express. As it's not ridiculous enough, who determined the rules to that?

No man has ever become stronger by not experiencing the depth of his own emotions. You can not learn from something that you are avoiding, suppressing or neglecting. Only when you are able to accept them, live through them, they no longer remain stuck in the dogma of being a weak man. We don't become strong by avoiding, we become strong by living them, understanding them, feeling them. If not, it remains to the unknown. An what is unknown, "ignorant" stays out of reach of the compound of 'learning' and certainly can't justify the statement that it leads to weak men. When emotions are retained, suppressed or denied, they lead to and build up inner tensions, aggression and perversion. Which is not unlikely when we make the comparison with men in the world outside.

We have to understand that if emotions are energy in motion, they will block their natural energy flow in the body, the mind and of course the soul. Energy that is blocked results into friction, friction into tension, tension into heat (the start point of inflammation), that one way or another needs to get out of your system. If retained, it takes all kinds of distorted forms. In the body (contained over time it will result in disease (dis-ease), illness and (as long as you stay unaware, ignorant or stubborn to recognize the symptoms) systemic diseases. (All rapidly evolving diseases and causes of death are just the expression of neglecting or resisting live, regardless which level, within the human over time).

On the psycho- emotional level the unexpressed emotion has the same behavior as on the physical level but characterized by the features of the psyche. Here the blockage will result in mental tension, frustration, building up aggravation, leading to projection of one’s own unlived (or unresolved inner issues) onto the exterior world (who has in the slightest form anything to do with it), ultimately ending up into aggression. On top of that, the intensity of the tension will give rise to hyper activity of the brain with condensed and intense thoughts, projections and delusions, reaching the end station of perverse behavior. The energy build up by not expressing, will remain up to the point where it finds its release, in one form or another. At this point, how innocent or perverse it becomes, is just the dance with one’s own morality.   

On the spiritual level you will experience a friction as well. As it is life flowing through you, but withheld because of the inability or unwillingness to express the e- motions, will lead to the blunting of the contact with your life’s energy, your soul energy. Intuition and the contact with your soul will be blocked out by the buffer of tensions and unresolved, unfollowed signals. This way, you’ll become disconnected from your ‘self’, your true being and who you really are. And from there on, without the necessary contemplation or meditation (observing what is going on) it will go from bad to worse, ending up into feeling lost, deprived from your energy. While it’s only you who deprived yourself from your energy, the connection to your soul or life- energy (which is by the way endless). And this way, you may have a job, a house, a marriage, even a Labrador, but when this contact is distorted or you are disconnected, you will have a life, but it will miss every aspect of true inspiration (the air / life / energy blown into your being). A soul-less life, maybe full of forms (possessions, status or importance) but in no way inspiring.

So, you can only become strong (wise) by going through emotions. By getting to know them. Otherwise they remain to the unknown, an illusion. We can talk an awful lot about it, even being convinced by it or believing it. But tell me, what's the sense in believing an illusion, something you know nothing about!?

Ridiculous no?????

And as ridiculous it may be, the majority of men in this world are not only living this fact day in day out, but it's eroding them, it's killing them from the inside out.

Secondly, when they are expressed.

The first step into this process that men have to acquaint themselves with is the recognition that they exist. That on itself is easier than bouncing against the impermissible societal wall men have been facing for quiet some centuries. But it is possible. Focus on what is living inside, which is the place where the work to needs to be done, instead of on the wall, which is a societal concept,....mostly in your head.

Another assumption to clear on this path is the intrinsic misunderstanding that, when men are opening up to the realization of their emotions, digging them out and getting to know them, they lose their masculine aspects as a man. As far as that is possible of course. It’s not because you focus on one aspect of your being, that the other side suddenly stops existing. That would result into some very strange human beings, won’t it!?

There is only gain in becoming aware of all aspects of you, as a human being. For those who counter that I can assure you their claims are largely based upon two aspects, a very small mind (and small minds mainly fail the openness to widen their consciousness) and fear. How can an emotion, lived to the fullest, not be an added value as a human being? It makes you feel alive, not just rationalize. It carries the potential to deepen oneself, to connect and experience oneness with oneself, ACCEPTANCE OF ONESELF, and thus the other. Isn’t that what we all are so desperately searching for?

Doesn’t it withhold the very key of our greatest problem in life and in society? Isn’t acceptance of who you truly are, being able to express it in all its honesty and intensity, the liberation of all restraints? We sure as hell wouldn’t be needing to wear masks over masks in order to feel a little bit good about ourselves.

And as an end result, becoming conscious and living your emotions only lead to a growing awareness about yourself. Which on itself leads to a growing awareness, acceptance and understanding. And who’s not looking for that?

There are of course people who can’t or don’t want to take this road. And it’s a choice, up to a certain point, where ignorance keeps looping in the same patterns of resistance, ultimately leading to one or another impactful loss in one’s life (whether it’s personal knowledge, the will, effort or ability to do things) or in the life connected to others.